“You should just be happy that you have a healthy baby.”
If the listener responds with the aforementioned quote, they mean well.
Unfortunately, any phrase containing, “you should just be happy because ________,” often does not result in feelings of gratefulness and joy (“Gee, thanks…”).
If the feeling or issue is not resolved by forgiveness or acceptance, it continues to linger, unsolved. This can turn out to be a recipe for disaster for mom and/or baby.
Research Shows That the Childbirth Experience Affects a Woman’s Self-Esteem
Giving birth will tend to be integrative or disintegrative, depending on the support, preparation and acceptance of her feelings before, during and after the birth. Her sense of maintaining psychological wholeness throughout the labor, whatever the method or kind of birth, is key to a positive sense of self.
Giving birth is an experience of great magnitude. It naturally follows that the more intact a woman feels emotionally, the easier it is for her body to adapt to the intensity of the labor, as heightened amounts of fear can give messages in some women for the brain to shut off labor. Self-esteem is a part of health.” -Dr. Gayle Peterson
*Read the entire article at The Birth Scene
Go into labor informed on the birthing process, and what you may encounter along the way.
Why Birth Experience Matters is a series created to first inform women on common procedures known as “birth management.” The second half is full of measures you can take to increase the odds of having a positive and empowering labor.
My goal with this series is to present you with the necessary information to be able to make informed choices and/or how to avoid often unnecessary interventions during childbirth.
By learning the pros and cons of medical interventions, one can understand the effects management has on labor, and whether or not it is necessary.
Ultimately it is self-advocacy, demanding a higher standard of care, and all around more education on the birthing process, will help to ensure that women have a better birth experience.
Birth Experience Matters Chapters
- Introduction to Why Birth Experience Matters (you’re here)
- Birth Management & Interventions- Induction
- Birth Management & Interventions – Epidural
- Birth Management & Interventions – Cesarean Section
- Why Does Birth Experience Matter? Reactions
- Introduction to Creating a Peaceful Birth Experience
- Peaceful Birth – Choosing a Care Provider
- Peaceful Birth – Writing a Birth Plan
- Peaceful Birth – Natural Birth Relaxation Techniques
- Peaceful Birth – Home Birth
- Peaceful Birth – Healing After the Unexpected Childbirth