I’m so glad to have talked with her. She’s doing a great job at getting highly informative messages out there to the natural parent community through her videos.
Watch our video interview below to learn more about Genevieve and Mama Natural.
Hi, my name is Kaitlin Rose, and I am not perfect.
That’s how I felt yesterday.
And I want to share why because I realize I often paint a beautiful, unscathed picture of my life.
I don’t write whiny or depressed Facebook status updates. I rarely delve deep in conversation with fellow mom friends about the things that irk me. I’d rather stay positive. But that doesn’t mean I don’t have crappy days. I DO.
Yesterday was one of them.
First off, I forgot to grab a package to send to a friend on the way out the door. I remembered 15 minutes down the road and was already running late, so I couldn’t go back to pick it up. Since it was Saturday, I’ll have to wait to send it until tomorrow. That bummed me out.
Then, after finishing my coffee, I stupidly sat coffee mug between my left leg and the door. When I opened the car door, it fell out and broke. Man! I loved that to-go mug!
We were driving into town for a few reasons – one was to sell a vintage guitar I’d put up on Craigslist. I realized when I got there that I’d made a crucial mistake: I didn’t have the guy’s phone number. And of course he didn’t show. What I didn’t realize was that he had emailed me the night before saying he couldn’t make it. That’s what I get for NOT checking my email first thing in the morning! Waiting around in the parking lot for 20 minutes wasn’t fun for any of us. My bad.
After the failed sale, we drove another 30 minutes deeper into town to attend an unschooling/homeschooling meeting/open-house. It was a complete dud. SO not our thing. Not impressed, and with a gas tank near empty, we headed back toward home feeling completely defeated. And I have to mention, it was 80 degrees outside. Hot and cranky is not a good combination for anyone!
Stopped at the Farmers Market for asparagus and saw some friends, who – thank god – brightened my day. Gave me a bit of hope to finish the day.
Riding home, I realized I had forgotten yet another task – to go carseat shopping. WTH? How could I have forgotten to do that? My friend is due to have a baby anywhere between 2-4 weeks and we need to give her infant car seat back, trade Ella’s to Lucan and get a new toddler car seat for her. <slap the forehead>
The rest of the day wasn’t actually that bad. At all.
We gardened, went to Ella’s cousin Jack’s birthday party, and arrived home just in time to get bathed and go to sleep.
Only, I couldn’t sleep.
As exhausting as the day had been, emotionally and physically, I was still swimming in the turmoil of a wrecked day. I have a tendency to hang on to feelings, good or bad.
I sat down on the couch with a carrot stick, wishing it was a tub of Ben & Jerry’s, wanting to write. How could I turn the day around by seeing some lesson learned? How could I change my perspective?
Oh forget it! It was still to fresh. I was still too raw. And one final word of constructive criticism from Eric on his way to bed was the last the I needed.
So, instead of write, instead of editing my ebook like I should have been doing, I parked my rear end on the couch and watched two back to back episodes of Modern Family. It was great. I even laughed a little!
Thanks for reading this post. It felt good to get this out, especially since I rarely complain (publicly at least!).
I’m sitting on the deck as I write this. Geese are swimming with their babies across the lake, and some guy is slowly circling the shore with a rowboat.
If I could learn anything from yesterday, it would be this: there’s always tomorrow. Today will be a better day.
A little back story about the writing of this book:
I wrote the 9 Steps to Home Birth Prep email newsletter just over two years ago as part of the creation of this site.
The newsletter was free to receive, and since it’s inception, over 750 people planning a home birth have been helped by it’s content.
Early this Spring, I decided to transform the articles of my newsletter into an eBook.
I wanted to make it even more accessible to families. An all-in-one home birth preparation package that women could read on their Kindle before bed or share easy access information with their parents.
So I began the process of turning the 9 Steps inside out. I shook it upside down and watched all the words tumble. What a mess!
Then I picked up all the pieces, rearranged them, tossed out a bunch, added a ton, and adding it all together again. It took me four months.
I’d say 95% of the content is brand spankin’ new.
I’d learned so much since I wrote the original series. Heck, I’d had another home birth since then – and it was so much different than my first!
Now begins the process of editing. Red pen to paper. All 12,000+ words. It’s going to be awesome, thanks to a few stellar editing volunteers (I have read it so many times by now I can practically recite it).
The 9 Steps to Home Birth Prep eBook should be ready for the public the first week of June!
I think of it as a lifestyle. It’s aligned with the way I live my whole life.
Attachment parenting is a way of mothering that nurtures my children. The daily practice of being an AP parent feels most natural to me.
While we’re talking definition, here it is:
Attachment parenting is a term coined by William Sears, meaning, “Attachment parenting is a parenting philosophy based on the principles of the attachment theory in developmental psychology. According to attachment theory, the child forms a strong emotional bond with caregivers during childhood with lifelong consequences. Sensitive and emotionally available parenting helps the child to form a secure attachment style which fosters a child’s socio-emotional development and well being.”
There are a few public figures that have normalized attachment parenting recently.
Mayim Bailik, wrote a book called Beyond the Sling, Angelina and Brad practice co-sleeping, Ricki Lake with home birth, Anne Heche uses cloth diapers and Alicia Silverstone considers herself a natural, attachment parenting mama (read her blog, The Kind Life).
I am so grateful that these high profile people have brought kind parenting practices into view.
And the cover has everybody talking.
What I like about the cover:
All in all, I am glad that Time Magazine is covering the topic of AP. I think more people and children can benefit from this simple way of life. Remember, the definition of attachment parenting is to be sensitive to a child’s emotions and needs.
I’m also thrilled that the cover has started a conversation about extended breastfeeding. The benefits of extended nursing are numerous. As someone who nursed one child until 3, two children for 8 months, and going strong with a 10 month old, I love to see breastfeeding in the news.
Now here’s what I don’t like about this magazine cover:
The title. Pairing ”Are You Mom Enough?” with a photo of a toddler nursing gives the impression that you must practice extended breastfeeding or you’re not mom enough. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Every mom is mom enough, no matter how long she breastfeeds her children, or if she is able to breastfeed at all. Two weeks or two years. Statements like this create a defensive, judgmental environment between women, that separates us instead of bringing us together. That’s the last thing mothers need.
At the same time, who is mom enough? What the heck does that even mean? We all have strengths and weaknesses.
You ARE mom enough.
Okay. Back to attachment parenting.
Attachment parenting means something different to everyone.
I’m proud of the way my partner and I parent our children and hope you are too, with whatever style works for you and your kiddos!
I want to stress again that I believe each person needs to walk their own parenting path.
Maybe you don’t use cloth diapers, or perhaps your little one prefers sleeping in their crib. That doesn’t mean you’re not an AP parent. It’s not black and white.
#1: What do you think of the Time cover?
#2: How do you, (or don’t you) practice attachment parenting?
This past week, my grandmother gave me a copy of Inspire, a quarterly magazine published by Borgess Hospital.
She thought of me because the issue included an article featuring nurse midwives called, Behind Women For Life; Celebrating the Role of Certified Nurse Midwives.
I visit my Grandma every Thursday with my children. We’ve been very close forever. She supports my efforts to inform families about home birth. She attended my first home birth and watched her first great-grandchild, Ella, be born. We talk about my work at BBH frequently. Love her so much!
I was grateful, and learned a lot from the article! For instance, I had no idea that CNMs provide life-long care to women, from before pregnancy, such as pap-smears, to long after pregnancy, up to menopause.
After reading it, I couldn’t help but feel a bit…envious.
As much as I love my midwife, I’m a bit jealous of the women who are able to form long lasting relationships with their midwives. My home birth midwife is a CPM, and didn’t provide personal care for me after the process of birthing was over. I’ve always been bummed that we couldn’t spend more time together, whether it be a personal or professional relationship.
She felt like going to nursing school would have gone against her inner constitution. And I totally respect that. Personally, if I were to become a midwife, I’d have a really hard time going to nursing school and immersing myself in the western medicine field.
In an effort to better understand the roles of the different types of midwives, I am going to highlight Certified Nurse Midwives and Certified Professional Midwives. This will help you determine which midwife to hire.
Here’s what all midwives have in common:
All midwives subscribe to and believe in the Midwifery Model of Care, which states…
“The Midwifery Model of Care is based on the fact that pregnancy and birth are normal life events.
The Midwives Model of Care includes:
The application of this model has been proven to reduce to incidence of birth injury, trauma, and cesarean section.
The Midwives Model of Care definition above is Copyright © 1996-2001, Midwifery Task Force, All Rights Reserved.”
Certified Nurse Midwives, (CNM) provide high-quality care for women of all ages – from expecting to menopause. Nurse Midwives generally work in hospitals, but are not limited to do so unless their agreement states otherwise. CNMs work independently in hospitals and refer high-risk clients to an obstetrician when necessary. CNMs can legally attend home births in some states. One becomes a Nurse Midwife by attending nursing school with an additional midwifery training through Accreditation Commission for Midwifery Education (ACME).
The Certified Professional Midwife, (CPM) credential, issued by NARM (North American Registry of Midwives), is accredited by the National Commission for Certifying Agencies (NCCA), the accrediting body of the Institute for Credentialing Excellence (ICE). CPMs are independent practitioners and assist women in giving birth at home as well as birth centers. Certified Professional Midwives care for women during their childbearing cycle, from pregnancy to postpartum.
In the end, in my opinion, all that really matters is that you hire a midwife! <wink> Make sure you interview as many midwives as possible to decide which midwife will share your values.
Lastly, be sure to check this out! The Midwives Alliance of North America (MANA) has put together some incredible videos about midwives lately.
Watch Every Woman Deserves a Midwife and Midwifery Care: What’s In It For Women? They’ll have more videos coming up, so subscribe to their YouTube channel here: I Am A Midwife YouTube Channel. I give them two thumbs up for quality, professional and informative social media marketing! The birth world needs it!
Now it’s time to hear from you! Was your midwife a CNM or a CPM? (or maybe a direct entry or lay midwife?) Where you happy with the overall care you received? Tell us your story in the comments below.
And stick around after for a live chat with Ricki, Abby and surprise guests!