Attachment Parenting, Babywearing, BBH Dad

Portable Car Seat and Baby Wearing Question for You (please comment a response)

42 Comments 28 March 2011

a guest post by the BBH Dad, Eric Walker

Ella and I were sitting across from one another eating a muffin at the cafe when I noticed a mother enter through the doors uncomfortably lugging her baby around in a portable car seat.

I bet it was a 15-pound car seat with a baby inside. The baby couldn’t have been more than three months old. I immediately asked myself, Why doesn’t she just hold her child?

Seriously, it looked ridiculous.

And I couldn’t figure it out. She looked miserable too, and with all the evidence that proves keeping your infant close is better, why do so many moms and dads make the choice the carry their babes around in a portable car seat carrier?

She was leaning to the side to carry the portable car seat with her forearm like carrying a purse. And with each step, her weight would shift to one side –as if she had a severe limp– and then she’d shift weight to the side that the carrier was on to increase the momentum, swinging the portable car seat to ease the the burden of it’s weight.

Again, why didn’t she ditch the portable car seat carrier and just pick up her child and hold him near?

I thought to myself. That would kill my back, my shoulders, and definitely my arm.

And for what? That baby was no where near her mama. She was getting jounced back and forth like a cradle with the bow about to break.

I turned to Katie and said, “I’m not so sure having the ability to lift your car seat out of its base from the backseat and propping it into a shopping cart or carry it around as if it were the uncomfortable tote at the airport is such a good idea.

That’s when she told me about baby wearing and attachment parenting.

I said “Oh” and asked if I could write a
short blog post about this topic and ask for opinions from the BBH community.

On the one hand, you have the ultimate portable car seat carrying parents, and I am whole-heartily NOT in favor of it.

I am all for parents simply picking their child up, and putting them in a carrier that is close to ones body, or a sling, or heck… even a blanket, and just carry the kid with your arms.

But I understand that there are all sorts of occasions where having a contraption like the portable car seat carrier might be helpful. I tried to put myself in your shoes, and came up with the following scenario that might warrant the use of a portable car seat.

When I drive my older child to preschool, instead of unbuckling my baby from her car seat while stopping my older child from jumping out of the car prematurely, and then having to deal with my baby crying from the change of position while walking the older one into preschool, I just unlatch and go. And then when coming back out to the car, and putting her back in the car seat again, which would mean buckling up, dealing with her crying (again) because of another change of position (twice in five minutes), I can just latch the car seat back in and be on my way — unscathed …etc, etc. You get to bypass the whole scenario in half the time and eliminate the crying by simply leaving the happy baby in the warm, cozy portable car seat and carry her around.

I might want that portable car seat carrier in a situation like that. I bet you can think of dozens of situations where the portable car seat carrier is VERY useful. Please do leave a comment for how you use it if you do use it at all. We want to hear from you.

But how much is too much?

I don’t think there is a wrong or a right. It’s a matter of preference. Which is why I want to hear from you. You know my preference, what’s yours?

Are you Pro portable car seat carrier? Are you Pro baby wearing? Maybe some place in the middle… either way, go ahead and leave your comment that describes your stance on this topic.

Attachment Parenting, Babywearing, Breastfeeding, Co-Sleeping/Bed-Sharing, Home Birth Advocacy, Home Birth Safety, Motherhood, Pregnancy

The Best Advice the BBH Community Can Offer

2 Comments 19 November 2010

Whenever I have a question or need advice, I go straight to the Bring Birth Home community.

On the BBH Facebook page, there are over 4,500 experienced friends and fans, ready and willing to share their experiences.

The only problem with all this great advice being on Facebook is it can easily get lost in the feed, never to be found again!

Which is why I took the time to track down a few of those precious questions so you can read the tremendous advice these women (and men) had to give.

Aren’t a fan of Bring Birth Home on Facebook yet? Become a fan!

(Click on the titles below to be taken to the answers)

Did you get enough help after giving birth?

Did you have older children at your home birth? What did you do to prepare them for the birth? How did that work out?

How did you *know* you wanted to hire your midwife?

What do you wish you would have known or could have been more prepared for before giving birth at home for the first time?

Bring Birth Home on Facebook is a great way to find like-minded mamas to talk to, connect with and gain insights from.

Feel free to ask them your questions. It can be hard to find support for your “off the wall” choices – that is what the BBH community is for!

Attachment Parenting, Babywearing, BBH Dad, Birth Experience, Breastfeeding, Co-Sleeping/Bed-Sharing, Home Birth Advocacy, Home Birth Safety, Motherhood, Pregnancy

Navigating the Bring Birth Home Blog – A Road Map

2 Comments 26 October 2010

When you visit a blog, and you take a look around, one thing looks pretty familiar from site to site – the sidebar.

The sidebar was created to help us navigate a blog or website.

While the categories, popular posts, news feed subscriptions, and archives might do a good service, it can still be rather challenging to navigate the blog, especially if there have been a lot of posts.

I’ve recently noticed that there are some gems of articles hidden within the Bring Birth Home Blog.

I wonder if our readers are finding them…because sometimes they’re hiding behind the “Older Entries” button at the bottom of a section.

Let’s face it, who likes to click and click around a site, spending more time searching for a particular article than reading?

That is why I have created this post - to create a clear and easy to follow road map, (think of it as a list of the Chapters at the beginning of a book!) for you to navigate the Bring Birth Home Blog all the easier. Now you’ll know just what you’re getting under each category.

Bookmark this post to get back to!

Why Birth Experience Matters Series

Description: A ten part series that describe exactly why birth experience matters to both mom and baby. The first half of the series tackles Birth Management and Intervention. The second is all about Creating a Peaceful Birth Experience.

Part One

Part Two

Pregnancy

The BBH Dad

Home Birth Safety

Home Birth Advocacy

Breastfeeding

Babywearing

Bedsharing/Co-sleeping

Motherhood

BBH Video Blog

The Bring Birth Home Store

Have you purchased any BBH logo merchandise? Or maybe you need some supplies for birth or just after birth? We have partnered with Mama Goddess Birth Shop to bring you nursing supplies and home birth kits!

Good Reads & Movies

I will be adding to this post as more articles are added! (and as I organize some of the messiness within this blog!)

Babywearing

Babywearing Photos to Celebrate International Babywearing Week

1 Comment 07 October 2010

These photos have been shared by the many friends and fans of Bring Birth Home. Thank you for sending in your beautiful pictures!


Want to include your photos?
Send them to KaitlinRose@BringBirthHome.com!
I’ll be updating this blog post for the rest of the week :)

Attachment Parenting, Babywearing, Guest Writers

My Addiction to Babywearing – A Guest Post

5 Comments 06 October 2010

I have an addiction.

It’s unhealthy, and healthy at the same time.

I’m not proud of it, but I also am very proud of it.

I am addicted to my baby… I am addicted to his smell. His kisses. His smiles. The feel of his soft downy hair, and his chubby smooth cheeks. I am addicted to the warmth and coziness of him being in my arms.

I am addicted… to baby wearing.

What started as a mere convenience – being able to have my arms back while still holding my fussy, miserable newborn – turned into a full-blown addiction, complete with now 5 baby carriers.

It all started with this Balboa Baby sling.

My mom bought it for me, and it was so fun to ‘hide’ my baby in there when he was brand new! But Bjorn soon started fighting being ‘bunched up’, because of all the pain he was in.

Enter the Moby.

Our favorite friend, and miracle-worker.

Still my all-time favorite baby carrier, even though we don’t use him much any more. Nothing compares to the closeness, comfort for both baby and mama, and all-day-wearability!

We lived in this thing for months! (I even have 2, because if one was in the wash, we needed to be able to wear the other!) The only down-side, for us? It’s not too convenient for occasional wear and lots of ‘in and out’.

Now that Bjorn is bigger (and feeling a lot better, thanks to his reflux meds!), we have been using mostly our Baby Bjorn carrier. Great for short wear, or lots of in and out, the Baby Bjorn is an old standby for most people. I like it. And it’s the only one my husband will wear!

My biggest complaint with the Baby Bjorn? Since my baby Bjorn doesn’t like to face out (too much stimulation!), he is constantly ‘walking’ on my legs, leaving bruises if I have to wear him for too long! What now?

Well, we are now getting to know our newest friend… Ergo. So far, we like him. A lot! We’ve only had him for a few days, and are still getting used to the feel of it all, but it’s so much more comfortable for me than the Baby Bjorn, as my Bjorn’s legs sit more around my hips instead of just dangling straight down!

I’m sure I will have lots more to say about this newest friend of ours as we get to know him better! :o )

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My name is Annalise. I am a mom of 1, soon to be 2, and a stepmom of 1. The minute my son was born all my preconceived notions of motherhood flew out the window and mommy-instinct kicked in. I am a baby-wearing, family-focused, peaceful parent, and soon-to-be a home-birthing mama! Check out my blog for recipes & ramblings… from a mom who loves to bake & loves her baby – Sweet Annas!

Attachment Parenting, Babywearing, Breastfeeding, Co-Sleeping/Bed-Sharing, Guest Writers, Home Birth Advocacy, Motherhood, Pregnancy

Applying the Law of Intention and Desire – Bring Birth Home Expands

2 Comments 05 September 2010

This morning before breakfast, I picked up Deepak Chopra’s, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success and opened it to a random page.

I would like to share with you the message I was given on the page I chose.

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Applying the Law of Intention and Desire

I will put the Law of Intention and Desire into effect by making a commitment to take the following steps:

1)  I will make a list of all my desires. I will carry this list with me wherever I go. I will look at this list before I go into my silence and meditation. I will look at it before I go to sleep at night. I will look at it when I wake up in the morning.

2) I will release this list of my desires and surrender it to the womb of creation, trusting that when things don’t seem to go my way, there is a reason, and that the cosmic plan has designs for me much grander than even those that I have conceived.

3) I will remind myself to practice present-moment awareness in all my actions. I will refuse to allow obstacles to consume and dissipate the quality of my attention in the present moment. I will accept the present as it is, and manifest the future through my deepest, most cherished intentions and desires.

by Deepak Chopra

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My intention with Bring Birth Home is to supply women interested in home birth with the information and support they are looking for while traveling the journey of informed birth.

While birthing at home is a prominent passion in my life, there are many others – some of which I have written about here on this blog, and some I have not (yet).

In order to fulfill and bring light to those other passions, Bring Birth Home is in the process of transitioning into something more expansive.

This includes broadening the subjects discussed at the blog and at BBH on Facebook and Twitter.

Several home birthing and attachment parenting mothers have shown an interest in becoming guest bloggers at Bring Birth Home.

They will be writing to you, sharing their experiences as they have learned how to become gentle parents and their tales of nursing, bed-sharing and elimination communication.

Others will describe their journey to home birth and the pleasant surprises and challenges they encountered along the way.

You’ll hear from women who gave birth at home after previous cesarean sections, women who were born at home and gave birth to their children at home, as well as mothers who transferred to the hospital after planning to birth at home.

As I take the journey to uncover and actualize the many passions in my life, I hope to capture that growth by blogging at Bring Birth Home as well.

So don’t worry, I’m not going away! Just learning new things about other things (I’ll keep you up to date on my adventures).

In the meantime, there are guest posts waiting to be cued. Watch out for them this coming week and until then, have a great Labor Day weekend!

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