Home Birth Advocacy

“I Am a Fearless Home Birth Advocate”

4 Comments 02 June 2010

Creating Bring Birth Home was an easy decision.

I had specific intentions for the site.  Gather and post home birth stories, pictures and some general information, and inspire and educate countless women about the choice to safely birth at home.

I did that. But something felt wrong. Something was missing. It wasn’t enough. I wanted to make a bigger impact.

So I started a Facebook Fan Page and a Twitter account.

Overnight, (I’m almost being literal) hundreds of fans of home birth came, began interacting, and praising Bring Birth Home for the work I do.

Proud mamas have sent in their home birth stories to such an extent that I can hardly keep up with my inbox. I watch articles I’ve written and stories I post being “shared” by doulas, midwives, and home birth advocates everywhere.

My heart has grown three sizes over the past six months.

But there is still one little problem…

I don’t always know how to be a home birth activist.

Sure, home birth is my personal preference…and I do think it is safer than birthing in a hospital these days (considering the incredible rate of unnecessary medical interventions)…

But I can’t use the word “should.”

I can’t tell women to have home births.

I can’t tell them that it’s better for them and for their babies and that they have a better chance having a normal, uncomplicated birth at home than in a hospital.

I can’t because I don’t want to be told hospitals are the better, safer place to birth. I have a major case of Golden Rule-itis!

I find myself almost apologetic over my home birth advocacy when…

I know this must sound absolutely crazy coming from me, but it’s true!

I get this way whenever the topic of home birth is available to the masses to read and comment. There is always at least one woman who shares her feelings in this way:

“Home birth?! No way! If it weren’t for giving birth in the hospital, my baby would have died!”

How can I respond without sounding like a complete hypocrite?

“Uh…yeah…good thing you were..in…a…hospital.” <gag>

How can I advocate home birth to all?

The answer is simple: I can’t.

Wait a second, who am I doing all of this for anyway?

Oh yeah…I’m doing it for YOU!

You, who visits Bring Birth Home. You, the fan, the follower…because You like home birth!

You’re interested in finding out more information. You’re interested in finding women who have successfully birthed at home. You want to read beautiful home birth stories and ask questions about planning your own.

YOU are the reason I created Bring Birth Home, no one else. There is no reason to be afraid.

Ah…I feel much better now. :)

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4 Comments so far

  1. Raeanne says:

    I’m sorry! I’m guilty of the “my baby would have died” bit… But I’m also a homebirth advocate and doula!
    I think it’s important to remember that what’s right for one person isn’t right for everyone. And, just because it’s right for mom, doesn’t mean it’s right for baby. It goes that way with everything in life, including birth.
    And, even knowing what I know about homebirth, and knowing that homebirth is right for ME, didn’t mean it was right for my baby. I mourned my loss of my planned homebirth for almost a year…
    There are appropriate and necessary uses for hospitals, just as there are for c-sections and other interventions. But the majority of the times that most people use them don’t fall in the “appropriate” or especially “necessary” category.
    If we want to spread the word and get other people to believe that homebirth is a safe and educated decision, we can’t become an elitist club that doesn’t accept that those women who use hospitals and interventions appropriately and/or necessarily made decisions that were probably very difficult for them, and that they feel judged *all*the*time* for the decisions they had to make!
    The best thing to do as a homebirth advocate is to be an open source of good information, and accept everyone for who they are, assuming that they make educated and informed decisions about what is best for them and their baby!

  2. All you can ever do is put the information, experiences, statistics, etc. out there and be willing to engage in discussion with women (and men) who are interested in homebirth. You can’t force someone to think, believe, or live the way you do, but you can clear up misconceptions or downright falsehoods.

  3. Lily says:

    All you can ever do is put the information, experiences, statistics, etc. out there and be willing to engage in discussion with women (and men) who are interested in homebirth. You can’t force someone to think, believe, or live the way you do, but you can clear up misconceptions or downright falsehoods.


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