“Home birth is actually pretty safe, Mom. And plus, the hospital is right around the corner from where we live.”
Sound familiar? I know I’m not the first home birther to use this line on family or friends.
As the loved one of someone who is birthing at home, the idea of a hospital being close by is a comforting fact. And as someone who is planning on giving birth at home, it’s a great point to use when introducing the topic.
When I first began planning my home birth, and telling select family members of those plans, I almost always mentioned the close proximity of our local hospital.
It was literally 10 minutes from our front door.
Their heads nodded in approval saying, “Oh, that’s good.” And, “Just in case.”
I’ll admit it – I liked being that close to a hospital for my first. It was after all, not just my first home birth, but my first birth ever. I didn’t know what to expect.
But as my due date neared, I began to rely less and less on the hospital.
My faith in birth outgrew the need to remind myself of my safety net. I stopped talking about it.
Our first child was born at home, and the entire event was beautiful. Hard work, but beautiful.
When I became pregnant with my second child, I knew right away that I’d be planning another home birth.
I called my midwife and doula, (my dream time) to let them know I’d be needing their services once again.
With this home birth however, one thing would be distinctly different: we had moved to a new home a half hour outside of town. No longer 10 minutes away from the hospital.
I thought long and hard about the possibility of giving birth at home if I lived in the country.
This wasn’t the easiest conclusion to come to.
Heck, I’m human. And I think “what-ifs” are a common part of our nature. We have to think through many different scenarios!
Ultimately, the answer I came to was yes.
Yes, I would give birth at home even if I lived far away from a hospital.
When it came down to it, I wanted to give birth at home to my children more than I was willing to sacrifice where I lived for a what-if possibility. That’s just not a way I want to live!
I wouldn’t give up my desire for home birth, nor would I give up my desire to live in the quiet countryside.
I believe in myself, my body, my team, and above all else, I believe in birth.
Does living in the country make life more dangerous? No.
Does home birth make birth more dangerous? No.
So I birthed at home a second time and it was gorgeous. And I didn’t think twice about being 30 minutes away from the hospital. I could have been two hours away. It wouldn’t have made a bit of difference to me.
p.s. this is not my home. Beautiful though!