Natural birth can be a touchy subject.
Those in favor of natural birth, also known as Natural Childbirth Advocates, support birthing without labor enhancing drugs or pain medications whenever possible. Natural childbirth is deemed healthier for mom and baby and advocates see their encouragement as bettering the birthing world.
Not all see it that way.
Women on the other side of the fence, (those who have no problem accepting pain medications or other forms of medical assistance) see NCB advocates retelling their drug-free experience as boasting, as if they are better than women who ask for an epidural.
To some extent, that might be true.
An advocate, by definition, is someone who argues a case for, or on the behalf of, another.
We do it all the time, thinking our way is the right way…
We talk about how much more awake and alert a newborn was after a natural childbirth as opposed to an epidural…
We describe the important of the first feeding and lack of bonding that can take place with cesarean sections…
Who signed you up for that?
Maybe you did. But maybe you didn’t. If not, I don’t want to scare you away.
One cannot ignore there are situations when the use of an epidural may be necessary, such as getting mom to relax. And in the case of deciding between having to get an epidural or c-section (opt for the epidural).
When it comes down to it, maybe I don’t know how to be a natural childbirth activist. I can’t bring myself to say how things “should” be done.
Maybe I don’t have to. Nobody likes to be told what to do.
How to empower women by NOT giving advice.
After that, they can make their own choice (I always say, own your birth).
A guest writer at The Unnecesarean, said it brilliantly in her post this past week, The S-Word (she says what I am trying to say here a zillion times better).
“Empower other women to succeed; don’t bully them into submission. Our goal should be to make sure that every woman has the information, accessibility and the encouragement necessary to reach her goals…”
So true, so very true.
All I can really do is support women in their choices, even if I don’t agree.
I am not better than anyone else for achieving the kind of birth I thought was healthiest for myself and my child (repeat 10x). <wink>
There are plenty of women who aren’t comfortable with the idea of birthing at home, and that’s fine. But I don’t want to be judged or told I am ignorant for my choice to birth at home.
The most I can do is provide information for women who might be interested in home birth and natural birth. It’s the least I can do.
And if the advocate in me says, “I hope they _________,” well, I’ll just keep that to myself.