Motherhood

Good Enough

4 Comments 17 January 2012

Since becoming a mother, I’ve often wondered if I’m doing good enough.

Am I doing a good enough job at all of this?

Am I a good enough mother? Am I doing a good enough job keeping this house put together?  Do I cook good enough meals? Am I a good enough lover? Am I treating myself good enough?

You know, we are often our harshest critics. I am often mine.

Well tonight, I had an idea, and I’d like to share it with you.

I though, maybe I am doing good enough.

Or at least, maybe that’s what I should start telling myself.

I’d like to believe we are living to the best of our capabilities every day.

We are always trying to do our best.

When we discover that we could do better in one area or another, I think we try to improve on our shortcomings most of the time.

At the end of the day, on the nights I have enough will power to muster myself out of the warm bed where I’ve just nursed the children into dreamland, I often ponder this subject, being good enough.

I reflect on the day.

I ask myself when I could have been better. When I should have taken a deep breath rather than raised my voice, or taken my time instead of rushed through the moment, eager for the next place to be.

There are several instances to look at, each and every day, where I can spot room to improve.

And here’s where the revelation comes in:

I used to go to bed with my brain in a tangled, worried mess. I couldn’t fall asleep.

Then tonight I thought, (or perhaps reminded myself is more accurate) that of course I was good enough!

I can say, “Today did my best. And tomorrow I will do better.”

What a great mantra!

Those areas that I’m not feeling  too proud of can be improved upon tomorrow.

While I can always do better, I shouldn’t beat myself up for being imperfect (human). I can forgive myself, make a promise to do better next time, and fall asleep in peace.

Think about that feeling you had when you rose to start the first day of the new year.

You can think of tomorrow the same way.

Resolutions are highly attainable when you create them one day at a time. I think that is much more likely to be accomplished than setting a goal for an entire year.

So start with tomorrow. What will you work to improve on? Pick just one thing.

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  1. tiffany says:

    Thank you for this post!!! I was just feeling so down on myself this past couple days…like i couldnt do or get anything right, was I a good enough wife and mother or was I failing. Reading this reminded me that I am a great mom and partner and although i have those slacker moments like anyone or make a mistake, I CAN ALWAYS be real with myself and say I lost my way a little on this or that today but tomorrow im gonnna do better, and then remind myself of all the things that went great as well. This post was such a pick me up :0)

  2. Sara says:

    Thank you so much for this post! You actually made me cry! I’ve been feeling horrible about myself. My husband and I have been ttc for ten months, and I just feel like such a failure every month when I get my period. This reminded me that I’m doing my best and that’s all I can do. Thank you so much. I needed this tonight!

  3. Deanna says:

    Beautiful post. Thank you. :)

  4. Leah says:

    I am a young mother. Probably the optimal situation for these exact feelings. Most days I feel like I am doing my best. There are those days where all I can do is question myself. Almost like who would put me in charge of a child?! I have done the natural birth with a midwife, breastfed for 9 months(would of been longer but I dried up), and made all natural organic baby food.

    Now my daughter is almost 2 and she weighs 50lbs and is over half my height. I am 5’7. I can no longer (haven’t for months) carry her in a sling. I can’t even lift the stroller with her in it. I feel like I don’t have a close bond with her even though I did everything including co-sleeping! Some nights I even crawl into her crib to cuddle with her. (picture that please!) It ends up being a battle. She jumps and climbs all over me. Its painful, not at all enjoyable. This leaves me feeling even more distant. Cuddling with a movie or a book just doesn’t seem to fill the void for me. I hope she doesn’t feel the same.

    I try to make myself feel like the healthy meals and routine we have are enough for her. I am pregnant again and I hope that this baby will be another way for her and I to bond. She seems to love the idea of a baby in my belly and shes my baby too. She reminds me every chance she gets. She is thriving well and my doctor acts like there is really no need for her to have an appointment, ever! I will just keep my head up.


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