Since becoming a mother, I’ve often wondered if I’m doing good enough.
Am I doing a good enough job at all of this?
Am I a good enough mother? Am I doing a good enough job keeping this house put together? Do I cook good enough meals? Am I a good enough lover? Am I treating myself good enough?
You know, we are often our harshest critics. I am often mine.
Well tonight, I had an idea, and I’d like to share it with you.
I though, maybe I am doing good enough.
Or at least, maybe that’s what I should start telling myself.
I’d like to believe we are living to the best of our capabilities every day.
We are always trying to do our best.
When we discover that we could do better in one area or another, I think we try to improve on our shortcomings most of the time.
At the end of the day, on the nights I have enough will power to muster myself out of the warm bed where I’ve just nursed the children into dreamland, I often ponder this subject, being good enough.
I reflect on the day.
I ask myself when I could have been better. When I should have taken a deep breath rather than raised my voice, or taken my time instead of rushed through the moment, eager for the next place to be.
There are several instances to look at, each and every day, where I can spot room to improve.
And here’s where the revelation comes in:
I used to go to bed with my brain in a tangled, worried mess. I couldn’t fall asleep.
Then tonight I thought, (or perhaps reminded myself is more accurate) that of course I was good enough!
I can say, “Today did my best. And tomorrow I will do better.”
What a great mantra!
Those areas that I’m not feeling too proud of can be improved upon tomorrow.
While I can always do better, I shouldn’t beat myself up for being imperfect (human). I can forgive myself, make a promise to do better next time, and fall asleep in peace.
Think about that feeling you had when you rose to start the first day of the new year.
You can think of tomorrow the same way.
Resolutions are highly attainable when you create them one day at a time. I think that is much more likely to be accomplished than setting a goal for an entire year.
So start with tomorrow. What will you work to improve on? Pick just one thing.
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