I’m planning a home birth and don’t have a home to give birth in.
I was going to give birth at my mother’s lake house.
We were going to stay there for the summer. I was going to labor in the water on a beautiful, sunny July day.
Then I received word from my mother that the home I thought I would be giving birth in this summer was no longer available. Due to a rocky divorce where neither side can agree, she’s putting it up for sale.
First I was mad. Really mad.
Then I settled down and realized we were big kids and could get our own house. But before long, I got angry all over again, and with that came a great deal of anxiety.
Of course, we’re not homeless. I could give birth here if I needed to…in this tiny, second floor apartment bursting at the seams with our household items (and some of our stuff is in boxes in the carport – yeah, it’s cramped alright).
No, I refuse to give birth here.
Not only that, but I don’t want to live here after giving birth, hauling my two babies up two flights of stairs just to get in the door. And there are three flights of stairs down to the laundry room, which we share with the 5 other apartment’s tenants.
Also, no dishwasher.
I am not delusional enough to think Eric will wash the dishes AND do the laundry for the first month (or two) of our newborn’s life. There would be piles and they will stink and stress me out.
And if any of you stay at home moms are like me, you understand – I am the domestic goddess of this household. I am fortunate enough not to have to work, and with that comes the responsibilities that I have taken a liking to (and am actually pretty proud of to boot!). But if I don’t do it, it just plum doesn’t get done.
Looking for a three bedroom home to rent with a dishwasher, washer/dryer & yard. Oh, and…I’ll be giving birth there, is that okay?
It didn’t take long to discover that our options were limited.
Not only were there few homes for rent, there were even less that met our ideal description without charging an arm and a leg. I thought times were tough right now?
Finally I sent out a massage Facebook message to all my friends in the Kalamazoo area, trying not to plead or sound too stressed out our situation. The response was good. Got a few leads. But they quickly faded out.
Back to square one. Ugh. Breathe…
That was about a week ago. Since then, we’ve had two promising leads!
We’ve seen both and liked what we saw (one more than the other). The prices are right. Now we’re just hoping our references check out and we’re cleared for move in. That shouldn’t be a problem.
And both owners know and are okay with our plans to birth at home! Yippee!
Since we’ve seen those two places that could work, I have slept so much better.
I knew I was bothered, but I honestly thought most of my night time restlessness was due to my sore hips and back. I didn’t realize just how much stress I was under until I saw that little light at the end of the tunnel.
Cross your fingers for us – we’re not in the clear yet. But by golly, you betcha I’ll be sharing the details about where we move as soon as it happens. Thank you for your positive thoughts!
UPDATE: We got the house we wanted! I’ll take photos as soon as we move in on April 1st! Thanks for all your positive comments and vibes coming our way!