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Energizing & Relaxing Strategies for Non-Stop Moms

6 Comments 31 January 2012

I’m a non-stop stay at home mom.

There are days when I sit down on the couch after putting the kiddos to bed and wonder, is this the first time I’ve sat all day?

Does driving the car into town count? Wait a second, did I get a chance  to sit during dinner? For a moment, just before picking up the little one out of his exersaucer and bouncing him on my hip while taking those few last bites.

Ugh.

Sometimes I just want a break.

But honestly, that’s not in the cards right now.

Dear daughter nearly had a melt down when dad wanted to take her to get a slice of pizza the other night. “Mommy come too?” She asked, so innocent and sweet. When the answer was no, she nearly hyperventilated.

That’s okay. This is a mere moment in time. It will pass.

But  for now, what is a stir-crazy,  touched-out, 24/7 mom to do?

For sanity’s sake, I’ve come up with a few energizing AND relaxing strategies to get me through the day.

Because yes, we need to stay relaxed inside and get an energy boost at the same time. It keeps us going. I think of Cesar Milan (he’s calm and assertive at the same time!).

These strategies go beyond stepping the next room to take a deep breath and count down from 10.

They’re more in depth. More colorful and fun. And I’ve found that’s exactly what I need in my life. Another plus: they’ll work for stay at home or working moms!

Energizing & Relaxing Strategies for Non-Stop Moms

  • First rule of thumb: don’t ever try to escape your children. That will never work. Join them. 
  • Sing: childrens songs, Joni Mitchell, whatever. Just sing. Your toddler doesn’t care if you’re good. They’ll sing along.
  • Instead of saying something you aren’t proud of in the heat of the moment, replace it with something positive like, “I love you!” or “my children are so curious and full of life!”
  • Count your blessings. Literally. Write them down if you need to. I write mine on mirrors.
  • Create a quiet space in a corner of the room that anyone can use to sit down and take a moment to themselves. It could be a rocking chair, bean bag or piece of carpet with some pillows. Get a CD player with relaxing music and a few picture books and a magazine for you.
  • Have a dance party! Turn the music up loud and JIVE. Yesterday I put on a very wide spinney skirt which absolutely astounded my daughter when I twirled.
  • Make popcorn. Eat it sitting on the floor.
  • Take a family bubble bath. The key is getting in with the kids yourself. The warm water is relaxing and the kids will love the bubbles.
  • Get outside! Fresh air is refreshing and invigorating!
  • Hug and/or kiss your children. Close your eyes and breath in their scent.
  • Lastly, when I’m feeling uber frustrated, I take a long hard look at myself in the mirror, directly in the eye. For some reason, it always calms me down. I just can’t be “hard” anymore

family music time

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Now it’s your turn! What do you do to calm down or relax during the day? Please share in the comments below. I can’t wait to hear from you!

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6 Comments so far

  1. Dee says:

    When I get super frustrated or just strung out I will sit on the couch and just watch my kids. Breathing slowly in and out. Then I tell myself all the things I love about them and would miss if I were without them. That usually gets me back up off the couch and in the moment. It usually only takes me a few minutes to get over it and return to being my usual loving life self. And my kids really appreciate it too.

  2. Annie says:

    Thanks, great ideas! The most impactful part of this post for me is the end: What do I do?? I can’t think of a thing!! I am going to try to be more aware of this and not just push through until I “make it through the day” get everyone asleep so I can have some alone time…I think your approach would help me with being more in the moment throughout the day.

  3. Micky Marie says:

    Thanks for sharing great ideas to help us focus on staying cool and collected. I need it sometimes, as we all do!

  4. Laurenzo says:

    Being a yoga teacher, lots of people think you are blissed out all the time, calm, gentle and relaxed. We are human too and we are not always so relaxed and calm. When my son pushes my buttons I try and see things from his perspective. Hes never been here before, how would he know that pushing an LED tv is problematic or pulling on a saucepan of hot water is really not so good! How does he know the outcome?

    Your breath is your best tool for calming your mind. Big breaths into your whole torse, tummy, side ribs and chest. Slowing it all down, and back to centre, back to the moment.

    I love your ideas, I sing to my son a lot…he loves music.x

    • bringbirthhome says:

      Thanks for your comment! You are so right. I used to think my friend yoga instructor was always calm…not true! But she has helped me relax in the ways of deep breathing and I greatly appreciate it.

  5. Jeanne C. says:

    When my oldest son is irritating me (he is 3…), when I clench teeth and the frustration is invading me, I take a big breath, I take him firmly in my arms and… start to tickle him! I tickle and kiss him saying «I love you too much!». This is always making us laugh and «brings out the vapor».
    If needed, after that we talk about what made us frustrated.
    And I take a nap in pm like my sons, alone in my bed or with them.


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