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Pregnancy Update #14: My _________ 34 Week Pregnancy Photo

29 Comments 23 May 2011

My beautiful 34 week pregnancy photo.

My adorable 34 week pregnancy photo.

My obscene 34 week pregnancy photo?

Apparently, someone on Facebook thought so.

I posted this picture of me on the Bring Birth Home Facebook page, and it was reported and deleted twice in one day!

Craziness!

Here’s what I think about this photo:

1) babies/toddlers like to be naked and my darling daughter’s bum is the cutest thing ever!

2) I’ve learned my lesson and will post personal photos on my blog from now on. Facebook’s rules are not my own.

What about you? How would you fill in the the blank? What do you think when you look at this photo?

Your Comments

29 Comments so far

  1. Keri says:

    More “scandalous” photos than that are seen on tv commercials. I can’t think of any recent ones, but I have certainly seen baby bums on the tube.

  2. Amy Phair says:

    I would just crop out the cuties butt or leave her in and just fuzzie it over or something, i don’t think there is anything wrong or dirty or obscene abotu a naked toddler but FB do have rules and you are using their service so i think it is only polite and right to obey them? You do afterall ‘agree’ to them when you sign up and are supposed to use the service under the conditions they set… i don’t think you can get too upset over it if you break a rule and they react accordingly… personally i think it’s a very gorgeous photo, but i think if you want it on FB then you should make it comply with their rules and cut out or cover the cutie bum in the background.

    If they still won’t let you post it even without the naked child, then we can resonably assume FB has an unexplained and unreasonable aversion to pregnancy and only likes to see bellies if they are in slutty photos of NON pregnant women… but without the removal of the nekid buttox and reposting of the just preggy pic we cannot say for sure.

    Just MHO :)

  3. Lauren says:

    I think this is a beautiful photograph and anyone going about deleting it has head problems. The joy of motherhood, just lovely !

  4. Jen McLellan says:

    I think it’s a BEAUTIFUL photo and am shocked it was reported…I just can’t believe it.

  5. Bri says:

    I think it if wonderful! My best friend, also a fan of BBH on FB, had one (only one) of her many HB photos reported and deleted, twice as well. It’s hard to believe that someone who is a fan of/ likes BBH would report that! I’m so sorry!!

  6. Ana says:

    I think its ridiculous that it was reported and think its a GORGEOUS picture of you and your belly!

    I have a picture with my daughter and she is naked at the beach. I guess I should go take it off now? haha.

  7. Sarah says:

    People are so lame. Keep it real.

  8. barbara says:

    Soooo Beautiful! I love that you are taking a stand.

  9. Katie says:

    Beautiful!
    Also, I like what Amy has to say above. And I hate to add this, but I just have to throw it in there: someone in my family was arrested for child molestation, so that being said, whenever I see a topic like this I think about how disgusting that person is to me, and how I NEVER allow him around my child, and I think about the thoughts that might go through his mind when/if he would see this. I know, I know, that is so disgusting. But I just had to share a *possible* reason you would WANT Facebook to remove the picture. I know it’s extreme and awful, but it’s sadly the truth.
    FWIW, I love your blog, website, FB, etc. You had a big help in me choosing to have a homebirth! :)

    • bringbirthhome says:

      Safe to say, I’ll be posting all personal photos at the BBH blog from now on. I agree with so many who have mentioned the sickos out there…at the same time, we can’t live in fear! @Katie – thank you for your support, I’m so glad BBH was there for you in choosing a home birth! :)

  10. Kathy says:

    absolutely beautiful!!

  11. Everyday I see photos of breastfeeding mamas being deleted from FB :(

  12. Elizabeth says:

    This is a beautiful photo and I can’t believe it got reported. :( My kiddos love going without clothes too! It’s so darn cute!

  13. Michele says:

    I love it. Kids like to be naked, so what? It’s not like it showed her front anyways.

  14. Erica Lea says:

    Natural. Beautiful. Realistic.

    Any women who has had children, or even for that matter BABYSAT tots before, should know that you can barely keep clothes on them!! And there is NOTHING wrong with that!

    To be perfectly frank, it upsets me when somebody from a community of over SIX THOUSAND people can’t just overlook ONE minor detail that they are a little uncomfortable with… How many people *Liked* that photo? How many people commented how lovely it was?

    I of course wouldn’t want perverts looking at that type of photo in the wrong way. But something tells me that there aren’t many perverts looking for *satisfaction* from a page/blog named Bring Birth Home. I’m so sorry that you had to deal with this crap. Thank this forceful universe you have your own page with your OWN rules <3 Love and Light to you and all that you do : )

  15. Rachel says:

    I agree with Katie…I personally find nothing wrong with it. Two cute adorable girls:) But I do know some people that have problems and this might add to that. I think we need to think about how this might affect other people and not just ourselves. But that’s just my thoughts.

    I think it’s fun to have pics of pregnant bellies. Especially so you can remember how you looked:)

  16. Lovisa says:

    Just wanted to add to the sicko convo: in the countries where nudity is a regular occurrence and no one makes a big deal about it, there are less sexual assaults….. Love the pic! I was very self-conscience when I was pregnant and didn’t even want my belly to show at the bottom of my shirt. I think with my next pregnancy I’ll take a ton of pics.

  17. Sara says:

    I don’t see anything wrong with the picture, but I do understand Facebook deleting it because of the stupid child molesters out there :( Ugh, they ruin everything and turn something sweet and innocent into something so wrong :( I love this picture. I showed it to my husband and told him “that is what I want to look like when I get pregnant!” :) You just look so beautiful and healthy!

  18. labortrials says:

    Well, I had just watched the ‘censored’ Count Song (Sesame Street) on YouTube, so I should probably censor my choice FIB word. Haha!

    And you’re right – she’s got the most adorable bum. Almost upstages your totally adorable perfect baby belly.

    ;) Kimberly

  19. Claire says:

    Considering how many photos I’ve posted on Facebook where at least part of my toddler is naked, I think it’s ridiculous that you’d get reported for that. Toddlers aren’t obscene. People who think toddlers are in any way sexual are the ones we should be worried about.

  20. Anna P. says:

    didn’t even notice the nakey bum in the background, just saw the belly:)

  21. Marixa says:

    I think it’s beautiful! We are going through potty training and do a lot of neked time both in and out. And because it’s warm out we let him because it’s easier! I love a cute little baby/toddler hinny!
    People are picky about everything!

  22. Tania says:

    Ah ha! The infamous photo! ;) You look fab-u-lous!!! Absolutely stunning.

    Now. The bare bottom. First let me say this, I agree it’s totally harmless and quite adorable! However, she isn’t a “baby”. She’s a little girl. Even though I personally would call her a “baby”, if you follow? And I agree with Katie. We live in a sick, sick world and there are people who wouldn’t see the adorable “baby” bottom we see. They could easily save this photo, crop you out, and use it for their sick, disgusting purposes. I was molested by a family member as a child and maybe that is why I feel this way. I should add, this family member was a woman.

    It’s totally sad we need to feel this way. But, I have a strong need to protect my children. And I question everyone before I trust them. I would never, ever put a nude photo, no matter how innocent, of my child on the internet. Having a group mooning would be totally funny. But the difference is we’re all grown women. Not innocent little girls. I LOVE BBH and I would hate it if someone used that photo for evil. I don’t think whomever reported it thought it was “obscene”, but was doing what they thought best to protect a child. Perhaps they were molested? Before we jump to conclusions and start name-calling, maybe we should think about why someone would have reported this. Maybe I do have “head problems”, but it’s because I was hurt as a child and I question everyone. Just my thoughts as to why someone may have reported it. :)

  23. You know I actually get it.
    We see scantily clad models/people all over the place. You can’t escape it.

    BUT … this is different.
    Protecting the sanctity and innocence of our children should be priority number one!

    I would have to agree that Facebook isnt the place to show our kids bums (no matter how cute they are) to US.

    Unfortunately the world isnt the utopia that many “positive thinkers” wish it to be. There are threats out there whether we accept it or not.

    As a parent it’s our job to keep our kids safe first and foremost. Teach them your philosophy second. One solution could be to put the picture in a protected album for family and friends only.

    But also remember that Facebook in its terms and conditions has sweeping ownership rights to anything you post on your profile. Therefore, it is a matter of legal precedence for them to respond this way. Imagine the law suits that would ensue if some parent saw their baby’s butt in an FB ad … It would be chaos.

  24. Toni R says:

    Toddler bums are the cutest! Facebook is lame.

  25. Carolyn says:

    In my mother’s day (1920′s) you didn’t even go out in public when it was obvious you were pregnant. There is something special about keeping special things hidden, privacy is the word. Being a private person I am not drawn to this type of exposure.

  26. Heather J says:

    Amy Phair, I agree with you 100% and couldn’t have said it better myself. It’s a beautiful photo of a beautiful belly and an adorable little naked baby butt in the background but facebook does have rules that you agreed to. A butt is a butt is a butt… no matter who it belongs to and for the most part, butts cannot be legally shown in public.

    I back the breastfeeding photos because legally speaking, it’s not obscene or public indecency and the person showing any nudity, if one would even consider it that, is the adult. I don’t back naked kids on facebook just as I don’t back naked kids at the supermarket.

  27. Ruthanna says:

    hahaha i didn’t even notice it first time around!! so cute!!!!

  28. Helen BH says:

    You know what…. a beautiful photograph celebrating a new life growing and a super beautiful little life growing up in the background ! The world needs to get a grip on all this nonsense…. Congratulations and good luck with the birth x I have 2 young daughters and to be honest, they have extra beautiful bottoms, they should be celebrated ! I hope by the time they grow up all this ‘fear by adults’ will have vanished.


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