The best birth starts with knowing what your ideal birth looks like. Your next step is finding a care provider. This post will help you find the right doctor or midwife.
Today on Labor Day, hundreds of thousands of families are taking to the streets in the United States to rally in support of evidence-based maternity care.
Sitting in my nightgown sipping coffee while my eldest plays make-believe in her fort, my youngest is sleeping peacefully. I can’t help but think about how blessed I am to have given birth to both of them in the comfort and safety of home.
But what I believe was more important than where I gave birth, is who I gave birth with – my midwife.
The best advice can I offer women and families from home today is to doctors and/or midwives until you find the perfect person for the job. Your care provider will make all the difference in your birth.
You MUST know, like and trust the person who will help you have a healthy pregnancy and safe, fulfilling birth experience.
Who is your care provider? Do you know their first and last name? Do they know your name? I sure hope so!
Position yourself as a leader: Be the one in charge
If you want to give birth in a hospital and hire an OB/GYN, schedule a meeting with several doctors for a consultation - in their personal office. If you are interviewing a home birth midwife, you can have this meeting at your home, her home or a public meeting place like a coffee shop.
Make sure that you’re sitting in their personal office, seated in the chair before their desk, and bring a list of questions to ask them.
Ask for references and testimonials from former clients. Ask to speak with those who work with that doctor most frequently and fact check his or her answers to your questions. Make sure everything ads up. If something feels off, walk away.
Just a thought – could you bring along a pocket sized recording devise? Is that legal? Wouldn’t that be the ultimate shocker if you set the tape recorder on his/her desktop?! I guarantee that would be a game changer!
By approaching this process in this way, you are positioning yourself as the boss, interviewing and eventually hiring the perfect person for the job.
You just put the power in your hands.
Remember, there is absolutely no need to feel less than or “beneath” your doctor. He or she is your client, not the other way around!
For more information about how to find the right provider for you, continue reading here: Peaceful Birth – Choosing a Care Provider